Do You Have To Or Do You Get To?
HEALTH & WELLNESS
By Lindsey Verner
There’s a common statement that many of us share – a statement usually made with disdain followed by an explanation of why we aren’t particularly happy about that statement. What is it? The infamous “I have to [insert some task here]”.
“I have to take my mom to the store.”
“I have to take my son to basketball practice”
Listen, Friend! I want to challenge you to shift your perspective on the “have to’s” from a tone of resentment to a tone of gratitude because there are many people that WISH THEY COULD do what you have to do.
For example: Let’s say taking your mom to the store is an exhausting task that takes all day. Insert your statement of “Ugh! I have to take my mom to the store. Why can’t she ever ask my brother? I have so much to do…” As a result, you’re going into the situation with a negative spirit (which will only increase as the day goes on and will subconsciously influence your interactions).
Meanwhile, there are people that have lost their mothers that WISH THEY COULD have an opportunity for their mother to annoy them one last time. Take note: someone ALWAYS has it worse than you and desires to be in your shoes. So, instead of saying, “I have to…”, shift your mindset to “I get to…”. Rejoice in the fact that your mother is alive. Rejoice that you not only get to have a child but also get to take him to basketball – while many struggle with infertility or disabled children.
It’s all about an attitude of gratitude, my friend! When you’re grateful for what you “get to” do instead of what you “have to” do, it puts an entirely different energy into the world and ultimately improves the level of joy you experience.
Thank me later!
About the Author
Lindsey Vertner is an award-winning personal development coach & speaker. She teaches female entrepreneurs who struggle with perfectionism, over-thinking, and doubt how to master their mindset and increase their clarity, confidence, and cash flow. Connect with her www.LiveAFirstClassLife.com
